For most of my life, I have prioritized so many things over the pursuit of my own happiness. Even the most noble and kind-hearted intentions can sometimes drive us away from the things that ground us and let us thrive. I am someone who believes deeply in investing in the people around me; friends, and family. I set enormous goals for myself in my work and fill up my days with lists of tasks for home and at work. But it occurred to me that even when I succeed in the most difficult goals, sometimes my own happiness still has not reached its full potential. I have pushed happiness to the bottom of my goals. I have viewed happiness as a possible result of achieving something else, rather than allowing happiness to be the main goal first.
It is so easy to forget sometimes, that to become great at something or achieving a goal, living a happy life takes intention and practice. It is so important to prioritize the things that matter first in our life, such as our health, family, and friends, but it is so simple to get caught up in the small things around us to forget that. The little stuff. Or the baggage that life throws at us. Every year we all get our fair share of it. Throughout 2016, I found myself achieving so much, graduating college was my biggest success. Then of course finding a job in my field topped it off. Every year comes and goes with our good and bad stories. Some years might be a little tougher than others. Believe me I get it, 2010 was my toughest year yet. With my mother battling cancer, changing high schools plus moving to another town, and my best friend moving to another state I was a wreck. I thought I was going to loose my mind at one point. I had anxiety attacks, I was not taking care of myself, and my grades were dropping. I was so done. But I realized I needed to take more control, I was not myself. It is easier said than done but the best thing I learned from it all was to stay strong. Life moves on, and we are always moving forward and never back. You make the best out of every situation and part of it is mastering patience, and having faith that eventually everything will fall into place. Upon doing that, my mother became cancer free and I adjusted to all the changes I had to deal with. I survived. And I learned how to be content and happy in the situation even though it was tough.
Entering 2017 what if I said we deserved to prioritize something greater. To be happy and have joy which is the root to living a healthy life for yourself. It is through practicing your own individual pursuit of happiness to achieve joy and fulfillment in all areas of your life. You are the source of your own happiness so take value in that for the new year.
Take note that there are 4 important factors in helping you do that; Reflect, Acknowledge, Invest, and Transform.
- Reflect:
-List what makes you happy right now
-List the things you are really good at
-List the best choices you have made in your life so far
-List the people who make you feel happy
-List the greatest compliments and encouragement you have ever been given
-List the things in your life you are actually able to control
2.) Acknowledge:
-List everything you feel passionate about
-List the things about yourself that you DON’T need to change
-List the things you prioritize before doing what really makes you happy
-List the times when you felt like you made a difference in someone else’s life
3.) Invest:
-List your values and beliefs
-List the people you want to spend more time with before the year ends
-List the elements of your life where you feel challenged in a positive way
-List the things your curious about
-List the things you hope will bring joy this last week of 2016
4.) Transform:
-List the things that felt important 5 or ten years ago but are unimportant now
-List the ways money can buy happiness
-List the ways money cannot buy happiness
-List how where you are right now fulfills dreams and desires of your past
-List one achievement, big or small every day this week
-List the things you think you’ll want out of life five years from now
-List the things you are ready to rid yourself of, things in your home, closet, and in your heart
-List the ways you invested in your happiness this year
-List the happiest moments of your year
As you look forward into the year ahead, think about what must need to be prioritized first. You, your happiness and health, family, and your friends above all else. Trust that your life always will hold happiness for you because of two important things; your efforts in the pursuit of happiness and good health, and of course the unpredictable beauty of the world that surrounds you. As hard as a life may be from time to time, there will always be something to spark joy if you seek it. Keep engaging in your own happiness and embrace the unknown as happiness awaits for you around every corner.
I wish you all a happy and healthy 2017!
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Today it came to mind that sometimes we need to realize that in order to be in control with our health we have to take matters into our own hands. It all starts with us being in control of our well being physically, mentally, and emotionally. We are our first priority. No it is not a selfish thing, but we owe it to ourselves to take care of what matters the most first. Our health and happiness comes first before anything. Some days you got to look in the mirror and smile and know you are worth so much than you give credit to yourself. I feel like we are so quick to be hard on ourselves. We all have a purpose, a calling in life to be the best we can be everyday to achieve the best possible.